Brianna was an energetic teenager who enjoyed playing sports with her friends. That was until E.D, a terrible tyrant entered her life and took control of her every move.
Brianna shares her story of living with E.D. and what helped her to beat the eating disorder, and learn to listen and love herself again.
I wrote 'I LOVE ME' in permanent marker on my venti hot caramel macchiato cup. I put my pen aside and stared at a photo of myself posted on Facebook seven years ago. I saw a sad girl who was afraid to smile. A girl who who didn’t believe or trust in herself. Her best attempt at a smile was lifeless, flat. She trusted E.D. (Eating Disorder) more.
E.D. was a tyrant. He told me what and when to eat or drink and how to think. The eating disorder beat me until I succumbed to his demands to restrict, binge, or purge. I tried to hide, but he was always lurking around the corner to snatch my smile. E.D. made me dependent on him, I craved his orders. I needed the eating disorder like I needed an English toffee coffee, void of calories in the morning. I couldn’t function without him.
E.D. robbed me of my real smile.
E.D. showed up after my senior year of high school. Up until then sports had always been part of my life. I played soccer, volleyball, basketball and was on the swim team. I found joy as endorphins pumped through my body. But, once I started my senior year of high school, I stopped playing sports. The numbers on the scale climbed along with my feelings of embarrassment and shame surrounding my body. I’d go to the gym, see the fit bodies and I only felt worse. I was no longer joyful, confident, and smiling.
E.D. controlled my smile as if I was a puppet. He was my marionettist for twenty-one years. But I never gave up being free of his control.
I began weekly therapy sessions that would last twelve years to work through the shame E.D. caused me. I had many different people tell me that my body was perfect just the way it was, and I could do any workout. I heard these words, but I did not believe them. I listened to E.D. I valued his destructive thinking more than my therapists, family, and friends. E.D wanted perfection. As I went through therapy and an intensive outpatient program, slowly I began to listen. I began not just listening but hearing and welcoming words of wisdom to assist me in navigating the obstructions in front of me.
I encountered four pieces of advice that helped me ...
One, take time for yourself. You cannot give to others if you do not take care of yourself.
Two, if someone invites you to do what may seem impossible. Do not automatically say no.
Three, believe in yourself as others do. You can do more than you think.
Four, let go of fear. You do not need it.
I stopped trying to chase perfection and instead embraced the idea that I am perfectly imperfect.
“I stopped trying to chase perfection and instead embraced the idea that I am perfectly imperfect. "
Smiling and Free of E.D. (Eating Disorder)
Six weeks ago, I walked through the sliding glass doors of my gym. I had no shame, no heart palpitations. I made my way to the turf area.
Looking at me were obstacles. TRX ropes, an iron sled with weights that looked too heavy to lift, and barbells that were taller than me. I looked past those intimidating barriers and instead saw a challenge that I would overcome.
I had learned to believe in myself. I had learned to appreciate my flaws and grasp the concept that I am not the fittest at the gym. I let go of perfection and decided to believe that I was amazing just the way I was. I was no longer scared of life that, at one point, seemed like an impossible obstacle. My smile became real.
And now, as I sip my caramel macchiato, and look at the girl in the photo with the lifeless smile. I sit back in my chair, and sense my smile spread across my face. I told myself as the caramel slid down my throat.
I will never lose my real smile again.
About Brianna Ricotta
Brianna Ricotta is a private educator, baker, business owner, and author/poet that strives to inspire her students and readers as others have done for her.
She pulls inspiration from the world that surrounds her.
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Another Inspiring Story from Brianna showing that you made a huge difference to your Life when you applied the four pieces of advice and realised that who you are is “Absolutely Enough” helping others in the same position as you were. Thank you sharing
What an inspiring story, and I love the way that ED is personified. So glad you found the freedom you so strongly desired.
Jennie – I thought that was excellent too. By doing so it externalizes the problem – sets it apart from ourselves. As Michael White says, “The person is not the problem, the problem in the problem.”.
What a powerful story and you are so strong!
This is so powerful and will help someone that is going through the same thing.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. No one is perfect but we are all unique, imperfectly perfect and that’s our superpower.
It is true we need to befriend ourselves first because ourself is the only one we cannot avoid with. There shall be harmony with ourself and accept our imperfections so that it shows to the world.
This was so inspiring to me. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️
I am so glad Sandra that my story inspired you!
Hi Brianna .. Fab story you’re sharing here for others to benefit from. Here is your facebook post:
This is a very inspiring story about loving and valuing oneself. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Nhez … thanks for your comment. I agree. … there is a lessons for everyone here about self-love and acceptance.